So I (32 male) got set up with 33 women from my dad's boss niece. We got each other numbers and went on our first date on Saturday. We meet up at a bar. Going into I was a little nervous. I have only done online dating except for college so felt like is this a date or just friendly meet up. So got in my head a little. We talked about the basics on the date. I drove the conversation mostly and felt like she didn't ask about me a lot. Some moments of silence and felt awkward. So with those moments felt is she not having a good time or I am not giving off a good vibe or does she want to even be here. We were out for about 1.5 hours. She went to the bathroom at the end and the bartender said you on a first date and I said yes they said she seems to be enjoying it and engaged from their perspective. We walked back to the parking lot and said thanks for the night and did a side hug. She then tells me thanks for taking a change tonight on going out. I said would you like to go out again we both agreed then figured out a time. She asked my thoughts on texting and she said if she doesn't reply its because she is working or sleeping (note she is night nurse).
She did get out 4-5 year relationship last summer after her ex didn't commit longer. I am unsure if she has dated since then. So she might be rusty when it comes to dating again. She was twilling her thumbs a lot when talking. I try to make eye contact and smile but it was hard to get a vibe from her. At times I felt bored as in what do I say next next. I did feel nervous going so felt like maybe I was putting on act so i didn't say anything stupid or dumb. I know I need to be more my authentic self next time. I am attracted to her but unsure if it was me just filtering what I was saying, could of listened better, or have more fun. I know things take time and grow. Knowing her family and having similar backgrounds I want things to work out and give it a chance. For my ex the first date was so much fun but the second and 3rd took a while after a few drinks. I am not trying to compare. Any thoughts on this situation?
